BOY DETOX: JOIN THE REVOLUTION

Please need not apply if:
-you are in a loving relationship (ugh, YOU people)
-you love him/her, s/he loves you
-you are generally a grumpy person
-you don't like pho

Please inquire within if:
-you find yourself wasting away time with boys you don't care about
-you are more infatuated with the attention, than the boy
-you are too dependent on meaningless relationships
-you're ready to spend this precious in-my-20s-and-loving-it time focusing on YOU and how to be a better YOU

Details:
Find yourself wasting minutes, hours, days over someone you really don't even like? Having to endure the horrifying emotions that come with a "relationship" (i.e. worrying, frustration, anger, hurt) over someone you don't even see making the "list" of who made an inkling of an impression in your 20s? Ever catch yourself thinking, why do I even answer your calls? Why do I even respond to your texts...sober?


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Weeks ago, I set off in a new direction...a boy-less direction. I deemed it the Boy Detox. I just realized that I was hanging out with people I didn't even care about and why? Because I wanted attention? Companionship? Validation? I've fallen into this pattern so many times before and I decided it was time to make a change. Because really, life is so short and NOW only lasts for so long and who knows when the RIGHT person is going to come along. There are so many things to do, people to see, lessons to learn...I don't need to be wasting ANY of my time over someone who doesn't mean a thing to me.

This decision was made prior to a very...well, life changing conversation I had with a friend last week. But the conversation validated the B.D. and has left me feeling better than ever.

In life, there are so many variables and so little constants but through it all, the one person you can count on, your biggest critic, is yourself. Things around you are always changing and you really have no control over anything but you. Situations, friendships, relationships, jobs, etc. will always shift, change, evaporate, etc. but in the end, what's most important is you're happy with who you are and the decisions you've made.

That very idea has been a life vest and I couldn't agree more.

Bottom line: I want to spend RIGHT NOW working on me. Not working on a "relationship" that means nothing. I want to spend RIGHT NOW making sure I do anything/everything I want to do, learn anything/everything I want to learn, experience ANYTHING AND EVERYTHING. Sooner than later (hopefully?) I'll be living in a full time partnership. And I'll have to consider him, his feelings, his schedule, his likes/dislikes and what better time to be selfish than now.